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Get to know our new Gift & Database Coordinator, Ann Bender

Our new Gift & Database Coordinator, Ann Bender, and her family have lived in several places — Pennsylvania, Maryland, and even in England for a year. One of her favorite places to visit, though, is her family's cabin in central Pennsylvania. Along with 2 older brothers and two older sisters, she grew up in Pittsburgh, where she attended 12 years of Catholic schooling and then studied marketing at Penn State. She worked as a buyer for Kaufmann's, the May Co. department store in the Pittsburgh area. She and her husband Bob met in Pittsburgh. Her mom is in the process of selling her childhood home, but just plans to move into a duplex next door. It's obviously a place where her roots run deep.

Over time, though, she and Bob and their two sons — Jack, 16, and Sean, 14 — have moved around, first to Baltimore, then to St. Louis 10.5 years ago. After moving to St. Louis, Bob's work sent them to England for a year, where they lived in St. Alban's while their sons were in elementary school "It was our first experience with the British-style school system before coming to Priory," she says. "But the school was actually run by Brothers of the Sacred Heart from America!"

Back in St. Louis, Ann was operating a business selling home accessories and working as a "professional volunteer" at Holy Infant serving as chair of their auction and a member of the facilities committee when she saw the ad in the St. Louis Review for the open position in the Development Office at Priory. She started here at the end of October. "I had experience working with the database at Holy Infant and thought it could be a good fit, and it has been. This is a great place to work," she says.

Outside of work, Ann enjoys traveling, reading, and spending time with her family. A book she read recently that she recommends is "Girls of the Atomic City," by Denise Kiernan, the story of women who worked at a facility in Oak Ridge, Tennessee, that was a part of the Manhattan Project during World War II. Her sons, who both attend SLU High, also keep her and Bob busy, with Jack playing CYC basketball and participating in Model U.N. and National Honor Society and Sean playing football and basketball. They both are also involved in the LifeTeen program at Holy Infant.

In the Development Office, Ann's job involves coordinating and maintaining the database of contact information and gift history for students and parents, alumni and alumni parents and friends of the Abbey. She helps with the logistics of events and with constituent correspondence, and also handles RSVPs, so if you haven't yet bought your tickets for Xanadu or the Father & Son Banquet, send in your response card or buy Xanadu tickets online so she can take care of that for you!

“Listen carefully, my son, to the master’s instructions, and attend to them with the ear of your heart.”

Prologue, 1

“This is advice from a father who loves you; welcome it, and faithfully put it into practice.”

Prologue, 1

“First of all, every time you begin a good work, you must pray to him most earnestly to bring it to perfection.”

Prologue, 4

“If you desire true and eternal life, keep your tongue free from vicious talk and your lips from all deceit; turn away from evil and do good; let peace be your quest and aim. (Ps 33[34]:13)”

Prologue, 17

“Clothed then with faith and the performance of good works, let us set out on this way, with the Gospel for our guide, that we may deserve to see him who has called us to his kingdom (1 Thess 2:12).”

Prologue, 21

“If we wish to dwell in the tent of this kingdom, we will never arrive unless we run there by doing good deeds.”

Prologue, 22

“What is not possible to us by nature, let us ask the Lord to supply by the help of his grace.”

Prologue, 41

“Therefore, we intend to establish a school for the Lord’s service.”

Prologue, 45

“The good of all concerned, however, may prompt us to a little strictness in order to amend faults and to safeguard love.”

Prologue, 47

“The reason why we have said all should be called for counsel is that the Lord often reveals what is better to the younger.”

Chapter 3, 3

“Your way of acting should be different from the world’s way; the love of Christ must come before all else.”

Chapter 4, 20-21

“Never give a hollow greeting of peace or turn away when someone needs your love.” –Chapter 4, 25-26

“Bind yourself to no oath lest it prove false, but speak the truth with heart and tongue.”

Chapter 4, 27-28

“Place your hope in God alone.”

Chapter 4, 41

“Respect the elders and love the young.”

Chapter 4, 70-71

“Pray for your enemies out of love for Christ. “

Chapter 4, 72

“If you have a dispute with someone, make peace with him before the sun goes down.”

Chapter 4, 73

“The first step of humility is unhesitating obedience, which comes naturally to those who cherish Christ above all.”

Chapter 5, 1-2

“Speaking and teaching are the master’s task; the disciple is to be silent and listen.”

Chapter 6, 6

“The first step of humility, then, is that a man keeps the fear of God always before his eyes (PS 35[36]:2) and never forgets it.”

Chapter 7, 10

“Let us consider, then, how we ought to behave in the presence of God and his angels, and let us stand to sing the psalms in such a way that our minds are in harmony with our voices.”

Chapter 19, 6-7

“On arising for the Work of God, they will quietly encourage each other, for the sleepy like to make excuses.”

Chapter 22, 8

“Every age and level of understanding should receive appropriate treatment.”

Chapter 30, 1

“Above all, let him be humble. If goods are not available to meet a request, he will offer a kind word in reply, for it is written: A kind word is better than the best gift (Sir 18:17).”

Chapter 31, 13-14

“Let all the rest serve one another in love.”

Chapter 35, 6

“Indeed, nothing is to be preferred to the Work of God.”

Chapter 43, 3

“Idleness is the enemy of the soul. Therefore, the brothers should have specified periods for manual labor as well as for prayerful reading.”

Chapter 48, 1

“The life of a monk ought to be a continuous Lent.”

Chapter 49, 1

“All guests who present themselves are to be welcomed as Christ, for he himself will say: I was a stranger and you welcomed me (Matt 25:35).”

Chapter 53, 1

“Proper honor must be shown to all, especially to those who share our faith (Gal 6:10) and to pilgrims.”

Chapter 53, 2

“(B)ecause wherever we may be, we are in the service of the same Lord and doing battle for the same King.”

Chapter 61, 10

They should each try to be the first to show respect to the other (Rom 12:10).”

Chapter 63, 17

“We wish this rule to be read often in the community, so that none of the brothers can offer the excuse of ignorance.”

Chapter 66, 8

“Trusting in God’s help, he must in love obey.”

Chapter 68, 5

Never to do another what you do not want done to yourself (Tob 4:16).”

Chapter 70, 7

“No one is to pursue what he judges better for himself, but instead, what he judges better for someone else.”

Chapter 72, 7

“Let them prefer nothing whatever to Christ, and may he bring us all together to everlasting life.”

Chapter 72, 11-12

“What page, what passage of the inspired books of the Old and New Testaments is not the truest of guides for human life?”

Chapter 73, 3

“What book of the holy catholic Fathers does not resoundingly summon us along the true way to reach the Creator?”

Chapter 73, 4


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